When your child suddenly drops on the floor flailing over you not letting him play with a Sharpie. When your child pulls your hair or slaps your face and you just want to lose your cool (or you do because we are all human). When you tell your sweet toddler it's time to go and they bolt in the other direction. <Sigh>
Our third child hasn't been a super angelic, innocent, I want a fourth baby right now just like him child. The almost two or 2-3year old phase is the hardest because they can't fully communicate their feelings and their frustration drives them to do the silly/stupid/ridiculous things like biting, hitting, tantruming on the floor. I'd like to think I have the patience of a saint but we all have our limits.
Laughing helps a lot, but so does ignoring, timeouts in his room (which until recently he couldn't open the door to get out), or redirection/distraction. Hang in there this too shall pass!
Amazon deliveries happen ALL THE TIME. I see their trucks with drivers donning bright orange traffic vests and think this is the future of retail. No need to leave the house/work to grab anything just place an order for same day or next day delivery on Amazon. Almost everyone I know has a Prime membership. From groceries to fascinators to diapers to socks who needs to visit a physical storefront?
This is the scary part of short term quick fix thinking. I'm all for supporting online shopping but when we all start to move away from interacting in a physical space and just gluing ourselves to our phones or computers nobody is winning (well except for Amazon). Do we want to push jobs to warehouses and delivery trucks?
Support your local stores, local boutiques, gift shops. Support uniqueness, talk to people, and teach your kids to do the same. Dare I even say don't just go to Target, the fact there are a million memes about "I just want to Target for ___ and spent $200". Sure its a great place but do you want that to be the only great place? Does the sea of sameness appeal to you? I know I hedged my bets as a small business owner and after running a website for 4+ years I opened a SMALL physical storefront. Interacting with customers is a beautiful thing, getting to know them and their kids, share parenting stories, ask for advice about the stages of life parents with babies and young kids go through. Shop local, shop small when you can, and go get to know your retail neighbors!
Spring Break 2019 and as I scan social media posts I see trips to Hawaii, Colorado, New Mexico, Florida, California, etc. What did the Hipster Baby Family do? Oh we decided to go spend our vacation money on a tonsillectomy for our middle child. We didn't make this decision lightly either. For the past 2 years our pediatrician has recommended we see an ENT because our daughter has massive tonsils that were likely the cause for her sleep apnea. Somehow we took her sleep issues with a grain of salt, that somehow we had a child who just didn't sleep well every night but that at some point she would grow out of it. Once we finally saw the ENT he said her issue could be solved by removing her tonsils and adenoids.
Fast forward to last week. The only entertainment from the day of surgery was after they gave her the "calming juice". Hipster's Sister was DRUNK on juice. Surgery lasted 40 minutes and within another 30 minutes the nurse roused her enough to take some pain medicine and eat a popsicle. After going through the pain medicine administering schedule, foods she could eat, and how the steroids they gave her would wear off by day 3 or 4 we were sent home. She slept most of that first day, hardly ate anything but popsicles and a smidge of chicken noodle soup I made for dinner. The second day post surgery was full of hysteria which over the phone the nurse told me was likely due to the steroids, although hydrocodone probably contributed as well.
Friends and family keep checking in asking how she is doing and really my best answer is it's a roller coaster. She has been great and on cloud 9 and then screaming and crying. We are still on the same pain management schedule, something given every 3 hours. We even wake up in the middle of the night twice to give meds. Mornings are the absolute worst. She has stuff she keeps spitting up upon getting out of bed and its a solid 20-30 minutes of this and crying. We are on day 7 and the experts tell us its a good 10 day healing time. The dragon breath of her throat healing is really quite startling too. Morning breath cannot compare to post tonsillectomy breath.
Eating comes and goes too. When you don't want to swallow most food sounds pretty horrible. I think our daughter has eaten her weight in popsicles though. The fancy Whole Foods all natural ones are not her favorite, its the high fructose corn syrup otter pop style ones that she wants.
Have any of your kids had a tonsillectomy? My dad and father in law have along with my mom (of course all as kids back when I think it was just standard protocol). Cheers to better sleep for our little one! Oh the crazy things we do for sleep....and the crazy experience we have had this Spring Break!
Christmas Gifts, Letters to Santa, requests, demands, lists... either for your kids or someone else's kids you can sometimes be stumped on what to get them for Christmas! There is so much noise and marketing out there that even as a parent I'm often at a loss on what to actually commit to for my kids. I've seen so many toys, read reviews, questioned what they might actually play with but clarity came when I ran across the view of The 4 Christmas Gift Challenge:
1. Something they want
2. Something they need
3. Something to wear
4. Something to read
A good way to make the reason for Christmas and gift giving more meaningful, more memorable, and so much less stressful.
Owning a small business and having 3 kids...or just having 3 kids...or just having a kid...wow it's a lot to say the least! But isn't life meant to be busy, constantly changing, spent surrounded by loved ones? Some days are easier than others, some nights are better slept than others, some days I think I look and feel better than others. But I'm so grateful for the ride I'm on, my kids, my husband, my customers, my friends, and my family, or the customers who have become my friends and often feel like my family.
I work more than I don't work and even if I'm not physically at the store I'm often doing something behind the scenes for the store or website; answering an email, ordering or reordering something, setting an item up, taking a picture, promoting, planning, etc. I honestly would not recommend retail to most people, even if it's just online or just part time. Being a family owned business in 2018 means I get to compete with Amazon, Target, Walmart, along with all the other online only businesses. So don't forget that when you order from me or walk into my store there isn't a conglomerate or giant warehouse filling your order or helping you in the back. We are a mom and pop store trying to make it. Retail is a roller coaster but we value uniqueness, personal service, and the ability to shop online and in a physical space. Need help? Just email or message us and we will gladly do so!
Being a parent is no small feat and so often I think we get trapped in the day to day kid caring business. The inevitable cleaning, wiping of noses, butts, you know the drill...then its the activities you want them to do. The playdates, dance class, soccer, gymnastics, swim lessons, and BIRTHDAY PARTIES! You claim you will get to that special project or task and it just gets buried in the mundane of parenthood. Stay at home or working parenthood options- both are so hard!
This is just a reminder that you aren't forever caught in the weeds. Each season has its purpose. The best thing you can do for you and your kid(s) is to take a little ME time. Easier said than done but a short workout, trip to shop (sans kiddos), go on a date night, whatever it is you have earned your recharge moment so make sure to take it.